We all (should) have some pretty big goals in front of us at all times.
I write about goals and vision and things of that nature quite a bit, but today I want to touch on the fear of failure and how it can be an extremely effective motivator.
I have a fairly daunting task in front of me this summer, with a reward waiting at the end to match the journey.
Things are getting pretty down to the wire in terms of time left to accomplish this task, but I’m not freaking out about it (hardly ever do, does no good).
One thing that was brought up to me today in regards to this task, was how I would explain to everyone around me if I were to fail.
‘I’m just not smart enough.’
‘I didn’t study as much as I should have.’
‘I was afraid to ask for more help even though I knew I needed it.’
These aren’t necessarily excuses, but every time you fail, people are going to want to know why. YOU are going to want to know why.
99% of the time, you will know exactly why.
You’ll know that you took too many breaks, too many days off, not enough late nights, whatever it may be.
You will know, but everyone else will also want to know.
So I come to you today with this, DON’T FAIL. Set your time frame to accomplish your goal, and do every single thing you can to make it happen.
As these last few weeks close in on my time frame, I know for a fact I am going to be giving every last ounce of energy I have to accomplish this goal.
When you have something in front of you, and other people know about it, think about how you’re going to explain yourself to those expecting highly of you if you are unable to achieve what you set out to.
I promise the story of why you failed won’t come down to the task being too difficult, it’ll come down to your preparation and your execution.
Give so much to it, that failing isn’t even an option.
Inspiration from this article came from a post on medium.com written by Justin C Scott.
Do me a favor and for a moment, picture a tree.
Think about how each part of the tree is basically a mirror image of a different part of the tree.
The branches? A smaller version of the trunk. And the trunk? A larger version of the branches.
The Law of Correspondence explains that this is exactly how our entire universe is structured. The inner truth of the functionality of our universe is in fact a carbon copy of the outer truth.
As above, so below…
Now when it comes to your personal life, how does this come in to play?
I’ll tell you.
The way you view the outside world and everything that happens to you, is a direct reflection of what is happening inside of you. All of the negativity and the hate that you see around you, more so shines light on what is going on internally than externally.
If your mental environment is one that is toxic, you will find yourself in situations and surrounded by people that are also toxic.
Like attracts like…
If you notice that you may have trace amounts of toxicity in you, I have the perfect solution.
Is it the Golden Rule? Treat others as though you wish you be treated?
No. In fact, it is the Platinum Rule. Live your life with an understanding that everyone and everything around you IS you.
Look at what bothers you most about people, and you may just find that same issue is what bothers you about yourself.
Keep this in mind for the next week, act on it, and watch as your external world slowly begins to shift in correspondence with the changes you’re making to your internal world.
One of the truest signs of intelligence is the ability of a person to understand that there are things out there in which they do not know about or understand.
This quote here is one of my absolute favorites in regards to this;
The wisest know most what they know leastSocrates
It may seem confusing on first read (much like the title of this post), but as you dissect it a little bit deeper you can finally put a pin in the meaning.
Intelligent people know that there is limits on their knowledge, and they also understand that there is truly an ever expansive amount of knowledge to be had during our lifetime. There are so many elements of our lives that are changing on a day to day basis, even down to the hour and the minute at the pace which we live in this modern age.
With more things happening faster than ever before, it is crucial that you understand this..
YOU DO NOT, AND WILL NOT EVER, KNOW EVERYTHINGMe
Harsh? A little. True? A lot.
Accepting that there are things you do not know will allow you to open up to those things. If you convince yourself you know all that there is to know, you will want nothing less than to learn more. You view yourself at the top of the mountain already, what more about climbing a mountain does someone who is standing at its peak have to learn?
The difference between you and said mountain climber is this, the mountains we face in our lives have no peak.
Can Tom Brady learn more about football and playing quarterback? Absolutely. Even though some may place him at the top of the quarterback mountain, does he continue to try and climb higher? Absolutely.
There are people below Tom fighting hand over fist to replace him at the top of the mountain.
Can Jeff Bezos learn more about business and building wealth? Absolutely. Even though some may place him at the top of the business mountain, does he continue to try and climb higher? Absolutely.
The point is that these two men understand that even though they may be considered the best at what they are doing, there is an endless amount of knowledge and potential for them that they must nail down to stay at the top and continue to raise the roof on expectations for their respective professions.
Understand that there are things out there that you do not know, but they are there for you to know. When you find this knowledge and apply it, understand that it will make you better at what you are doing than you are right now.
Thanks. (and good luck moving forward).
There may come a time where you wish you had started sooner. You might wish you had hit the right groove before you actually did.
It doesn’t work that way though. Things timed out for you the way that they did on purpose. If you had stumbled upon the signs and the signals earlier, which you may have, you wouldn’t have been able to accept them.
You are where you are because that is where you are supposed to be.
You are where you are because the lessons and the twists you encountered put you here.
Many times, you have to get lost to understand where you are and how to find yourself.
The time this journey takes is what makes the experience so sweet. The delayed gratification and the turbulence you withstand is what makes the arrival so grand.
The breakthroughs you experience and will experience wouldn’t be such a breakthrough if you had it all from the beginning. You know from experience by now that if something is handed over to you for free you are unable to appreciate it as much as you would had you worked day in and day out for it.
This is on purpose.
You aren’t late. You aren’t missing out on anything. Your journey is still being written, let it come to you. Keep your head down and keep pushing forward, you will end up where you are supposed to.
I have mentioned this before, but this is something I want to write about once again simply because it is one of the loudest points being made in my life right now.
We live most of our lives on a fine line. We walk a fine line between what we want to do, and what we need to do. Majority of the time, it can be difficult for us to see that what we need to do will bring us more benefit in the long term, but what we want to do will bring us more joy in the short term.
This is something we all experience. The hour long nap or Netflix break will provide us with a little bit of rest, something easy that does not require too much effort, but might set us back on something in the future. Maybe we skip a homework assignment and say we will do it on Sunday before it is due.. we have all been there.
But what tends to slip our minds in these situations is the only two things we truly have.
Those two things are all that we have on a daily basis. We have 24 hours, and we have the energy that we have provided ourselves with up to that point.
People struggle to find the connection between these two things and let them both slip away.
They then find out later down the road that we have cut our time and energy in half, and doubled the work that is required of us.
Some will say that ‘I like to wait til the last minute so I can put some pressure on myself to actually get it done.’
This is such BS.
It is laziness, and it is the wrong inner voice taking control of us in the current moment and telling us that we basically have unlimited time and energy to accomplish what we need to accomplish.
From past experiences in your life, you should know that this rarely works out.
How many times did you, as a student, say you were going to wait until the day before the assignment was due to complete it? Next thing you know you wake up the day it is due and you have yet to complete the assignment. Now you have to bust your ass to finish something with less time, because you abused your right to control your time, and you also have less energy simply because you have less time.
The energy we have to complete tasks and live our lives is not necessarily constant, because it can be observed that we obviously have more in some situations and less in others, but our energy levels always balance out.
For every spike, we have a crash. Every moment we demand excess energy from ourselves, we find ourselves later down the road with limited energy.
This plays in to the homework example simply because if you offer yourself half the time to complete something, you in turn offer yourself half of the energy. You cannot double your energy in half the amount of time.
Time brings with it energy, and energy is a by product of the time you are choosing to spend.
It struck me to write about this topic again because I am facing moments in my life that are demanding of much of my time and my energy.
I am in situations where I am required to choose certain areas of my life to devote my time and energy to over other areas.
If I decide to work on my writing, that is one hour less of my day that I have to spend in the gym.
If I decide to sit at a computer and get to work on my new business opportunity, that is less time and energy that I can devote to preparing for my teaching certification tests.
Some of the most successful people I have seen tend to be experts at dividing up their time and energy.
They understand this concept and are able to control their time and energy either from just an exceptionally high level of internal understanding, or time budgeting.
Once these successful people learn how they operate the most efficiently, they implement those strategies in to their lives and almost run on an autopilot routine.
The same devotion of time and energy to the same wide variety of daily tasks will create an amazing commitment to your goals, and put you down the most optimal path that you can find.
Begin to understand how you operate, and find the way in which you can live your life that will provide the most efficient work flow, with the highest upside.
I want to take some time out to thank everyone who has supported me on this platform and gone on to purchase The Mindset Muscle.
It means so much to me to know that people follow along with what I say and appreciate the insights I offer enough to continue looking in to my content. I truly do put all of what I have in to my posts, emails, and especially the book!
Over the course of the next couple of weeks I will be racking my brain to try and decide what would be another good topic to release a book over.
I am 100% open to suggestions so feel free to comment below this post, tweet me, email me, anything!
I wan to know what you all want to learn and read about.