I’ve written about this a few separate times before, but if you read my content somewhat regularly you’ll know that when something surfaces in my real life again I feel the need to reiterate it on my site.
You may remember that I mentioned at the beginning of this year my word to focus on for the next 365 days, or 301 days at this point, is build.
Today I took a step outside what has been my comfort zone and I attended a roundtable event to get some more information and insight on a subject I am highly interested in. It was at this event that I was smacked in the face yet again by the ability of what we say and think to become present in our real life..
On many occasions in 2020 I have sat down to journal and have mentioned how badly I would like to get paid to write content for other people or businesses. I make it a point to sit down and write out, and sometimes even say out loud, what it is that I want my future to look like.
When I sit down to do this the same things will usually come out. A happy marriage and a healthy family, a beautiful home, successful businesses, getting paid to write for others, an opportunity to build businesses, and a handful of other recurring visions.
I’m telling you this because today at the event I attended, I had a conversation with two other gentlemen who are both currently searching for somebody to write content for them.
Nothing has been agreed upon yet as we have hardly had any discussions about it other than a few minutes today – but the simple fact of this door presenting itself to me is the greatest part.
I don’t need handouts or guarantees. I don’t need other people doing things and setting stuff up for me.
All I need is a drive to move forward. My drive to move this very website forward and make it bigger and better is what brought me to the event I was at today. My drive is what showed me a door, or two, to an opportunity to be paid to write content for someone else.
When you consciously map out what you want to happen, it makes it all possible. Hardly anything great was achieved on accident…
I can assure you that almost all of the greatest companies and the greatest people on the planet set out to be great. They knew what they wanted to accomplish and they found a way to get it. Of course the plans will never work exactly as we lay them out, but even by only wanting something and imagining it, you can create it.
I’m not going to go in to it but please do not forget, speaking things in to existence still happens even if you are speaking negatively…
Ever since I began this site – almost exactly a year ago – I have experienced waves of emotions pertaining to the content I am creating. One day I put out what I feel is some of my best work, and maybe in that same week I put out some of my worst.
Sometimes I will hit a stride and post consistently solid content for a week or two, and then not even log back in for a month or two.
It is confusing to me why this is the case, but I think I am starting to figure it out. Before I say anything else I want to disclaim that I know the work I put out is nowhere near spectacular, but at the same time, everything is subjective.
To me – my best work is work that is outlined ahead of time, created, revised, and then published. I will admit, I do not do this on every post. A handful of the posts on here are a case where I sit down with a thought in my head or motivation from something else I have seen, I type, I publish.
I know that doing it this way does not necessarily create my best work. It often bothers me because I really do prefer to do things right the first time, and put nothing but my best out on display. This is all a learning experience though.
A goal of mine is to one day be able to make a decent living just off of my writing, and I know that in the very beginning stages of the process – like I am in now – the content I create is not going to be as good as I want it to be. The only way to get to that point is to actually do something. Even if it isn’t great.
It is common knowledge that every greatest in the world was once a beginner. It is said that Michael Jordan even failed to make a basketball team after tryouts one year. It is said that Thomas Edison attempted the lightbulb close to 1,000 times before he was successful.
I view my writing, and this stage of my writing career, as exactly that. 1,000 god awful lightbulbs. If I stop at lightbulb #60, how will I ever reach my potential as a writer? This is where the title of this post comes in.
It is so much better to do something poorly, a handful of times, than to sit and do nothing at all. Writing a few times a week (which I need to up, by the way) is molding my style and my ability in a way that doing nothing could never. Obviously.
Something else I really want to touch on in a later article is Impostor Syndrome. Not today though.
The following is penned from the book It’s Not How Good You Are, It’s How Good You Want To Be by Paul Arden. I recently reread the book and this is one of my favorite sections from it.
Here you go –
It is quite easy to get approval if we ask enough people, or if we ask those who are likely to tell us exactly what we wish to hear.
The likelihood is that most will tell us nice things rather than be too critical. Also, we as humans have a tendency to mute out the bad that comes from others, and only hear the good. Selective hearing some could say.
So if you have produced a pleasantly acceptable piece of work, you will have proved to yourself that it is good because others will say so.
The work you have done is probably okay, but probably not great.
Instead, if you look at your product with some what is wrong with it glasses on, you are much more likely to get an answer that will help you improve.
Your idea as a whole may even improve.
And yet you are always in the position to reject criticism if you feel it is incorrect.
Arden’s book is stocked full of 1-2 page short essays that each hit you with an incredible truth. The precision of the ideas make it easy to decipher the meaning behind his words.
The day will soon come when you develop your self.
The night will soon come when you un-develop.
The morning will soon come when you re-develop.
The day will soon come when you un-develop.
The night will soon come when you re-develop.
The whole of your life will never be fully, but the path of your soul will always be lovely.
It may hurt and you may not belong.
But we all do, or nobody would.
The Oasis waits, come one or come all.
The Oasis waits, but without you will not exist.
A very common trend on the internet right now is doing the whole, 30 things I’ve learned in 30 years.
Well, today is my birthday and I am turning 25, so what a great opportunity to create a 25 things in 25 years list! But I’m not going to do that. I’m going to go for quality over quantity.
Instead, I am going to list some of the most important things I can think of that have really stuck with me up to this point in my life, so here we go.
Scared money don’t make money
If you are going to be successful in anything, you have to just go do it. If you want to win, you have to play – plain and simple. Say yes to things you might not be ready for, and do everything you can to learn, learn, learn, along the way. Take chances.
You won’t actually ‘start tomorrow’
Too many times in my life I have employed the ‘I’ll start on Monday’ strategy. Too many times, I never did. I have been fairly disciplined and done what I know I have needed to do in order to stay productive and healthy, but part of having a drive to get better is exactly that – I always want to get better. From here on out I know for a fact I will do a better job of beginning something immediately, and committing to it with everything I have.
No two people are the same
Just because something works really well for someone else, doesn’t mean it will work for you – or that it is the only way to do it. We all know how unique we are, and this is no different when it comes to systems and methods that help us become healthy and successful. Find what works best for you and roll with it.
Coffee is great
I love coffee. Black coffee. I drink it every single day. It tastes great and it helps me in so many ways.
The secret to success is consistent action
All you have to do is DO THINGS, and do them over and over again. You can learn anything. You can accomplish anything. But you have to actually take action and continue to take action.
Find your purpose and motivation wherever you need to
And as I mentioned above, no two people are the same. What motivates someone else might not work for another person. This is going to be totally unique to you!
The power of the Universe (God) is so real
What you think about and focus on is what you will attract, whether it is positive or negative. Your thoughts have a great power that will bring whatever they create in to your life. If you want something, ask for it, and then go get it. Karma also plays a part in this. What you put out is what you are going to get! If you are polite and loving, you will see more of that in the world.
There are more correlations between football and real life than you can ever imagine
People tend to mock sports as ‘just a game,’ but I swear to you football is so much more than that. Teamwork, discipline, effort, intelligence, communication, and more than I can even name. Having been a part of this sport for almost my entire life, I can swear up and down that it is one of the best ways to develop someone as an entire person.
NCAA 14 is the best video game ever made
I love it and wish I could play it all day every day. I did while I was in college, but I am an adult now so unfortunately that won’t fly.
If you don’t look back at yourself on almost a yearly basis and think ‘Wow, I was an idiot,’ you might not be growing
Idiot is a little harsh, but you get my point. You should be getting better each and every year and when you look back on yourself, you should realize how much you wish you knew. If this stops happening for you, you likely are no longer getting better.
Do what you love and what makes you happy
This will be my last one, as it is probably the most popular and the most simple. If you don’t like what you are doing, do something else. Make changes you need to make to make your life what you want it to be. You are in control!
Here is to another great 25 years!
There is only one word I will be focusing on for the next 365 days.
I am extremely proud of where I have put myself as a young 24 year old man, but I am not anywhere close to where I want to be.
Towards the end of 2019 I let myself slip a little bit. Not a fly off the rails type of slip, but I have lost some discipline in areas of my life that I have previously been much more disciplined.
Instead of concerning myself with keeping some of the good habits I may have lost and removing some not so good habits I may have picked up, I am going to aim to build in 2020. All of those habits will eventually fall in or out of place.
I have sat down and locked in on four areas of my life that I will build this year.
- Bank Account
I have also sat down and categorized almost everything I do on a regular basis, and filtered them down to either being a builder, or a destroyer.
It may seem a little extreme, and maybe too black and white, but at the end of the day, everything you do either helps you or hurts you.
I found the things that I need to do more of in order to build certain categories, and things that I need to do less of to prevent myself from destroying certain categories.
For example, something that builds my body is getting a lift in, and something that destroys it would be In n Out for dinner.
I’m sure you get the picture.
But if you haven’t seen or heard from me anywhere else, I will be having my first baby girl in May of this year. She still has a little while longer inside momma’s belly, but she has already lit a fire underneath me that will not burn out any time soon, or ever.
If I can successfully build the four categories I am aiming to build, she will be looking up to an incredible father. She will be surrounded by parents that love each other to the ends of the earth, and parents that will do anything to help her become the best young lady she can be.
Less about me, and more about how you can use the word Build to shape the beginning of this next decade.
Pick four categories that are important to you, I would highly suggest Body and Mind being two of them, because if you are aiming to build yourself in those areas alone, you are sure to tighten up in many other areas as well.
Some examples may be:
- Knowledge in a certain subject
- A particular skill
- Self talk
- Love life
If the four you choose are Mind, Body, Community, and Painting, let’s break down things that categorize as either a builder, or a destroyer.
- Builders – trip to the gym, yoga, walking, stretching, a full nights rest
- Destroyers – fast food, no sleep, smoking, drinking
- Builders – reading, writing, drawing, listening to a podcast, meditating
- Destroyers – too much social media, video games, porn, complaining
- Builders – volunteering, community clean up, organizing life groups
- Destroyers – being rude, staying home all day, littering
- Builders – taking a class, practicing, visiting art shows
- Destroyers – negative self talk, comparing your work, wasting time on other things
This was a pretty short list obviously, and if you truly sit down and choose your four categories, there will be plenty of meaning behind them. You will know exactly which categories you need to do a better job of building, and you’ll be able to pinpoint the destroyers pretty quickly.
It was actually easier for me when I did this to come up with the destroyers, because as I mentioned at the very beginning of this post, I have started to let some aspects of my life slip. I knew right away when I came up with the four categories what I need to do, but more importantly, what I may need to stop doing.
I hope this helps you set up the right track for your 2020.
Also, another builder I have in mind, is that I will start posting here much more consistently again.