Beneath the flowers and the stems,
lie the roots and weeds to condemn.
You look so pretty up top,
underneath are you clean or a dirty workshop.
You must dig to find out,
look in every corner for why you may doubt.
Shackles and chains,
always deny what you wish to attain.
Grab a flashlight and look for the dark,
make it light and get it right.
Something I have mentioned before in a few of my posts is how what we put out in to the universe is ultimately what is going to come back to us.
Just like my piece last weekend that spoke about judgement..the judgment you put out, is the judgement that will come back to you.
Again, this is a topic that I picked up from my visit to church this weekend. A new series was recently started called ‘What Happy Couples Know’ and it will touch on a handful of different aspects of relationships and marriage. However, I am going to keep the relationship side out of it and relate it back to us as individuals.
As the title says…
If you don’t like what you are getting, take a look at what you are giving.
If life seems to be beating you up a little bit lately, or people you come in contact with seem to be a little bit more rude or standoffish, take a look at the energy and the vibe that you have been putting out in to the world lately.
It can be difficult to look back and truly reflect on this, but if you can do it honestly, there is a good chance that you will find that what you have been receiving lately is because of what you have been giving lately.
Now obviously, this is not always the case.
But a good place to start when you are upset with how life has been treating you, is to take a very close look at how you have been treating life. It may surprise you when you reflect that you haven’t been as polite, or as loving as you need to be in order to let those feelings come in to your life.
So before you curse the world and everybody in it for what has been coming to you as of late, take a few steps back and slow down and truly try to recognize the energy that you have been giving to the world and the people around you.
This leads in to the next point that was a major take away from church for me this weekend..
If you want something different, be it.
The example used in the relationship context of ‘What Happy Couples Know’ was if your significant other has not been as kind or as affectionate towards you recently, you be those things for them and you should get that in return.
However, an important note (I know I said I wasn’t going to make this about relationships but I feel the need to include this piece), do not give only to receive. Give to give.
Aside from relationships, if you want something different in your life, you need to be it.
If you want 6 pack abs, you need to be the person that does the things to get 6 pack abs. You need to eat clean, exercise regularly, etc.
It sounds a little bit obvious, but it really struck a chord with me.
If you want something different than what you are getting in your life, you need to change. You need to be the difference. Do not expect the outside world to simply change because you want it to or change for the better just off of chance.
People get stuck in ruts because they think something may get better with time when actually things get better with action.
A better life comes from you, not what is around you.
So take those two quotes and run with them. Etch them inside of your brain and understand that the things are coming to you are most likely because of what you are putting out. The energy you receive is the energy you are giving, and this is true in your relationship with your spouse or significant other, and your relationship with the universe.
Being in a new state and having finally got settled in after the move, I finally made time to find a church and attend a Sunday morning service.
It is the first I have been to down here, but I think it will be the one that I end up sticking with. It is a new, modern, and exciting church to attend that offers plenty of volunteer opportunities and ways to develop relationships with great people.
Now for those of you reading this that have known me for a while, and those who haven’t, I have a confession.
I did not grow up in a religious household, and I still would not consider myself religious today.
I don’t necessarily abide by any rules or views of a certain religion, and the God that a lot of people talk about and worship is not exactly how I practice religion.
For me I tend to understand things better when I look at ‘God’ and ‘The Universe’ as synonymous. Both have the ultimate power and have been around for all of time.
Now enough about my religious beliefs…let me tell you about what the service contained on Sunday.
The Pastor spoke in depth about judgement, and how it can hold us back from experiencing and understanding the relationships that we develop.
He also mentioned the way that we judge people, is ultimately the way we will be judged when our time comes. So in a religious sense, the way you look upon and judge other people in your life, is the same way that God will judge you when you step up to Heaven’s gates.
This is something that my not so religious side can take away and spin it just a little bit.
Instead of it being so much about Heaven, it becomes more about your true world and what you are living right now.
If you judge outwardly from a negative bias, that shows that you are experiencing negativity within yourself. If you see bad, you hold bad. If you see good, you hold good.
In the same way that God will judge you when your time comes based on how you have judged, you judge yourself in congruence with how you judge others.
Remember this next time you assume something about someone before you jump to conclusions.
Be patient, and God, the universe, will be patient with you. Show love to everyone around you and practice patience, and the same will be shown to you.
The other thing that was talked about on Sunday was how preconceived notions of people can put them in boxes that they will never get out of.
You look at someone, listen to the first thing you hear out of their mouth, and create an entire category to put them in within thirty seconds of meeting them. This can happen in a good way, or a bad way.
The boxes that you put people in this early make it tough for them to get out, and even difficult for you to get them out.
When this is the case, it holds us back from truly being able to open ourselves up to them and develop relationships that can be capable of love and compassion.
This is so true.
There are so many other things that we allow to have an impact on our relationships, and many of those things should not be prioritized over other aspects, but they are.
So moving forward, what I want you to take away from this is the same thing I took away from church on Sunday.
Hold back the reigns on your judgement after first impressions, so not to limit the potential of your relationships within mere minutes of meeting somebody.
Also, how you perceive the world and other people is truly how you perceive yourself. The negativity that you think you see outside of you is because it truly exists within you, and obviously the same can be said in the opposite. The happiness and positivity you see is what is within you as well.