There is only one word I will be focusing on for the next 365 days.
I am extremely proud of where I have put myself as a young 24 year old man, but I am not anywhere close to where I want to be.
Towards the end of 2019 I let myself slip a little bit. Not a fly off the rails type of slip, but I have lost some discipline in areas of my life that I have previously been much more disciplined.
Instead of concerning myself with keeping some of the good habits I may have lost and removing some not so good habits I may have picked up, I am going to aim to build in 2020. All of those habits will eventually fall in or out of place.
I have sat down and locked in on four areas of my life that I will build this year.
- Bank Account
I have also sat down and categorized almost everything I do on a regular basis, and filtered them down to either being a builder, or a destroyer.
It may seem a little extreme, and maybe too black and white, but at the end of the day, everything you do either helps you or hurts you.
I found the things that I need to do more of in order to build certain categories, and things that I need to do less of to prevent myself from destroying certain categories.
For example, something that builds my body is getting a lift in, and something that destroys it would be In n Out for dinner.
I’m sure you get the picture.
But if you haven’t seen or heard from me anywhere else, I will be having my first baby girl in May of this year. She still has a little while longer inside momma’s belly, but she has already lit a fire underneath me that will not burn out any time soon, or ever.
If I can successfully build the four categories I am aiming to build, she will be looking up to an incredible father. She will be surrounded by parents that love each other to the ends of the earth, and parents that will do anything to help her become the best young lady she can be.
Less about me, and more about how you can use the word Build to shape the beginning of this next decade.
Pick four categories that are important to you, I would highly suggest Body and Mind being two of them, because if you are aiming to build yourself in those areas alone, you are sure to tighten up in many other areas as well.
Some examples may be:
- Knowledge in a certain subject
- A particular skill
- Self talk
- Love life
If the four you choose are Mind, Body, Community, and Painting, let’s break down things that categorize as either a builder, or a destroyer.
- Builders – trip to the gym, yoga, walking, stretching, a full nights rest
- Destroyers – fast food, no sleep, smoking, drinking
- Builders – reading, writing, drawing, listening to a podcast, meditating
- Destroyers – too much social media, video games, porn, complaining
- Builders – volunteering, community clean up, organizing life groups
- Destroyers – being rude, staying home all day, littering
- Builders – taking a class, practicing, visiting art shows
- Destroyers – negative self talk, comparing your work, wasting time on other things
This was a pretty short list obviously, and if you truly sit down and choose your four categories, there will be plenty of meaning behind them. You will know exactly which categories you need to do a better job of building, and you’ll be able to pinpoint the destroyers pretty quickly.
It was actually easier for me when I did this to come up with the destroyers, because as I mentioned at the very beginning of this post, I have started to let some aspects of my life slip. I knew right away when I came up with the four categories what I need to do, but more importantly, what I may need to stop doing.
I hope this helps you set up the right track for your 2020.
Also, another builder I have in mind, is that I will start posting here much more consistently again.