Supplement Your To Do List With A To Be List

One thing that I have done a very good job of lately is constructing (and most of the time completing) daily to do lists.

In the morning before I walk out the door I note down about three or four things off the top of my head that I know I need to get done that day. Usually this early morning list is the same every day.

  • Study
  • Lift
  • Read 10 pages

Then throughout the course of the day more things will come up, and I will continue to add to them. I may get a text from a business partner asking me to edit something on our website. My mom might call me and tell me to give my grandma a call.

You get the point.

But I thoroughly enjoy putting these things down on paper, and getting to put that check mark next to them.

For the last month I have been developing this habit and getting better and better at it, but today I realized something (with the help of the Aubrey Marcus Podcast)…

I focus too much on doing, and not enough on being.

I spend so much time and energy on external things such as tasks and assignments, that I can often neglect the internal aspects.

  • Love
  • Happiness
  • Empathy
  • Righteousness

All of the external tasks in the world will not matter if you are not consciously monitoring and controlling the internal being that you are.

What I am going to start doing, and what I would recommend you start doing as well is this;

Create two lists for yourself throughout the day

To do list

  • Workout
  • Write a blog post
  • Go for a walk
  • Read 10 pages
  • Finish spring install plan
  • Call 5 customers

To be list

  • Present
  • Aware
  • Happy
  • Thankful

You and I know that the content of these lists could almost be infinite. They could be different every day, or they could be the same every day.

But much like a to do list, as your day moves forward, be aware of what you are checking off your to be list. Purposefully choose moments of your day where you are intently aware.

Put your phone down while you eat and take a moment to actually taste your lunch and enjoy it. Be thankful for the simple fact that you are doing well enough in life and in such a position that you are able to enjoy a lunch every single day.

Even if it is only for the 15 minutes you are eating, you are then able to check aware and thankful off of your to be list.

When you add in a couple more moments of happiness and presence, for 30 minutes that day you have focused on nothing other than being you and experiencing your life as you.

We get so caught up in the hustle of our daily lives and I am a huge victim of this recently, that I forget to step back and slow things down. I forget to remember how blessed I am to have a lunch to eat, to have a bed to sleep in, to have a body that is healthy and able.

I, and you, need to purposefully think for just a few moments a day, about how and what you are being.

I hope this will help you as much as I know it will help me.


Published by Skyler J. Windmiller

Football coach and entrepreneur starting my journey through life. Teaching all that I learn to people whose shoes I was recently in. I want to let every young adult know what I wish I knew then.

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